I'm really enjoying this whole pregnancy diary thing. I know many women say the second pregnancy flies by, but I'm not really experiencing it that way, probably because I'm forced to thing about it so often... Who knows? Anyway, it's week 15 and the sprog is now between 10 and 11cm long (crown to rump) and weighs about 50g.
I'm almost a bit sorry I didn't do a diary with my first! But then like any firstborn, there will be a lot of things she got that second, and third, (and fourth and fifth?) didn't or won't get, so she'll just have to deal with it. For one, I doubt if I'll have time (or hands) to take as many photos of number two as I did of number one! With our photos of her, there are so many of them I'm sure you could play them all in sequence (quickly) and make a movie!
Well, we're winding down from the festive season here so I'm actually getting a bit of a break. No lecturing or ballet teaching yet this year, so the toddler and I are having some great bonding time while I try and sort out our junk to make space for the newest addition.
The Baby Bond has become the new number one on my list of recommended books for moms and dads.
I said I'd mention a couple more things about that book, The Baby Bond, which I got a couple of weeks ago. It has become the new number one on my list of recommended books for moms and dads. I must admit, I get a bit irritated with baby books that are based solely on opinion, with very few objective facts to back them up. They may put forward logically plausible ideas that sound attractive to new parents trying to deal with the stresses of having a baby, but I feel that although many of the ideas seem to offer short term solutions, but actually aren't helpful in the long run. And since I read The Baby Bond, I know that my feelings were often correct.
Dr Palmer looks at the evidence behind the idea that a LARGE percentage of colic, reflux and excema cases (amongst others) can be vastly improved if allergens, like cow's milk protein, are removed from the baby's diet...
The Baby Bond is full, and I mean FULL of references (over 1200 of them in fact) to studies that have been done on the usual issues that come up with babies, and what solutions actually work. For example, Dr Palmer looks at the evidence behind the idea that a LARGE percentage (something like 80%) of colic, reflux and excema cases (amongst others) can be vastly improved if allergens, like cow's milk protein, are removed from the baby's diet, either through removing are from the breastfeeding mother's diet, or finding a formula free of the specific allergens.
She also looks at the misconception that a baby can be lactose intolerant. This is almost impossible, as lactose is the primary sugar in breastmilk, and a child that is genuinely lactose in tolerant would probably suffere severe brain damage in the first days of life, and not live long enough to pass on the genes. The real intolerance is an intolerance to cow's milk proteins, which human babies, and many grown up humans, struggle to digest. With babies the large proteins are absorbed through the large gaps in the intestine and the body sets up an immune response to the foreign bodies, causing the symptoms of colic, reflux and excema. That said, many adults are lactose intolerant as most people stop producing lactase, the enzyme needed to digest lactose, once they are out of infancy.
Anyway, if you are keen to buy the book, there's a link at the bottom of the page – an Amazon one for non-Saffas, and a Take2 one for locals. I got the book from Exclusive Books for R189, so you can check prices from there...
I was chatting to my mom a lot while I was reading the book, and one thing I really enjoy about my mom is that when I mention things that she might not have done that she could have, or vice versa, she doesn't make excuses for her actions, or feel all guilty about the could-haves, should-haves and would-haves. We're quite alike in the sense that we both understand that we genuinely can't change the past, and we do the best with what we can in the present. She doesn't allow any possible guilt on her side to prevent her from acknowledging the accuracy of things I am saying. And so she is then free to share the information to other moms, using the knowledge that she has now.
Love you mom! And thanks for listening to my rants and raves!
So Nana, Grandpa, Mom, Dad and Toddler set off on a four hour drive north to go harrass some impala.
|The Toddler and The Rhino|
Speaking of my mom, we were visiting my folks on New Year's Eve and, as moms and dads of small children often do, went to bed reasonably early, because toddlers don't seem to understand the concept of sleeping in. So on the morning of the 1st my mom got the bright idea that we should go to the Hluhluwe–Umfolozi Game Reserve for the night. Knowing my mom, I had packed an extra night's clothes, so I was ready for anything! So Nana, Grandpa, Mom, Dad and Toddler set off on a four hour drive north to go harrass some impala.
We saw zebra, impala, nyala, giraffe, warthogs, rhinos, elephant, buffalo, wildebeest, dung beetles, and a lion in a a tree.
|Impala with a capital 'M'|
It was great fun! We actually stopped to look at the impala! (We don't usually stop for impala – they are like the McD's take-away of the bush – even down to the M on their rumps!) We saw zebra, waterbuck, nyala, a large herd of giraffe (about 12) at a watering hole, an even bigger herd of elephant spraying themselves down at a another watering hole, some rhino, buffalo, wildebeest (gnu's), warthogs, dung beetles, and to top it all off, a lion who thought he was a leopard. (He was sitting in a tree – very uncharacteristic!)
I love that she's now old to enough to understand and enjoy things like that!
...the toddler seems to be getting a lot of airtime today...
I know the toddler seems to be getting a lot of airtime today, but with planning the whole homebirth thing, I've been looking at the idea of having the toddler around for the birth. She's quite an empathetic little girl, so if she sees someone in pain, or even thinks someone is in pain, she gets quite upset and cries as though she were experiencing the pain. With my last labour I made a reasonable amount of noise as it helped me with my breathing, but I don't think the toddler would understand it that way.
Perhaps if normal birth were seen as more normal, we wouldn't fear it so much and it might happen more often!
Perhaps if she were a little older I might consider having her around as I believe that normal birth should be seen as more normal (rather than as a fluke i.e. 'You were so lucky to have natural.') Perhaps if normal birth were seen as more normal, we wouldn't fear it so much and it might happen more often!
So for now we will deposit her at Ouma's house (hubby's mom) when things get going, and collect her when we're done. But I don't think my mind is quite made up on that one yet. Maybe we'll just play it by ear. I can't find any studies on this one so I'll just have to make up my mind on my own... *smiley face*
And so ends another week. Make sure you check out The Baby Bond and keep an eye out for week 16 of our pregnancy diary, coming soon!
|The Baby Bond available at www.take2.co.za|