|Waterbaby One Piece|
So I finally got that body pillow finished. Jeepers! If I'd known it would help that much I'd have done it months ago! My back started feeling wonky at 7 weeks in, and regular pillows just didn't help, so I think I could have saved myself some sleepless nights! Next time...
'My Daddy may be a computer geek but I'm proof he scored at least once.'
I'm thinking of having some of my little babygros printed with little things like 'Water Baby' or 'Born at Home' or 'A midwife helped me out.' 'Mothersucker' is another one my favourites... Ooh ooh, and another one, 'Jesus' birth was a homebirth.' Heehee... I found two other fun ones for baby vests for the babies of computer geeks: 'Newbie', and 'My Daddy may be a computer geek but I'm proof he scored at least once.'
At about 2.7kg he was the smallest baby I'd ever held!
Oh, another unforeseen change to what I thought might be in this week's diary: That friend I was supposed to assist at her c-section was admitted for gestational diabetes and went into labour while she was there, and it being a government hospital they were okay with letting her try for natural. All was going well until she started bleeding heavily as a result of the placenta coming away from the uterus so they did the c-section quite quickly. I did go and visit anyhow, at hospital and at home, and the littley one was sooo cute! At about 2.7kg he was the smallest baby I'd ever held! I did manage to get him to have a nap though, which mom really appreciated!
I'd really like to know what comes into people's minds when I say that I'm planning a home birth.
One thing was that while I was there, one of the nurses was removing my friend's drip and she asked if I was also giving birth at that hospital. I said that I was planning a water birth at home. So she started with the scare tactics - 'You know things can go wrong very quickly?' To which I replied that the midwife did have oxygen. That seemed to be the clincher for her. I'd really like to know what comes into people's minds when I say that I'm planning a home birth.
'Hospitals are full of sick people.'
Giving birth at home is safe. Giving birth in hospital is safe. To an extent that does depend on how you define 'safe', but I'll leave that topic for another day. As a low risk mom and baby pair, and from what I know of hospitals, I really feel that I'll be safer at home than I will at hospital! In the words of a great friend of mine: 'Hospitals are full of sick people.' I'm not sick and neither is my baby. If we need assistance the hospital is 7 minutes away.
It's the ultimate solution for a control-freak like me!
I will have one-on-one continuous care. I will not need to protect myself from unnecessary interventions by staff who offer or recommend those interventions to protect themselves, but I will be protected. I will be able to decide who comes in to my 'birthing space' and who doesn't. It's the ultimate solution for a control-freak like me! There's a lot about birth that I can't control, but I think it really helps to be able to control what I can. And sometimes the best way of 'controlling' is by doing nothing i.e. not intervening. If there was a freestanding birth-center close by I might choose that option - it would be less for me to organize and less to clean up! Until then, I'm staying home as far as it's up to me!
Strangers don't know that our decisions are not based on fear, but on evidence and information.
I know I sound a bit like I'm ranting, but it seems that people, strangers and acquaintances mostly, have something negative to say about us planning a homebirth; it's quite rude actually. I guess it's partly because people who know me/us know that the research has been done! Strangers don't know that our decisions are not based on fear, but on evidence and information. One thing that bugs me is that those who question my decision to plan a homebirth always seem to ask fear based questions. What bugs me further though is that when I question someone's choice of hospital birth where c-section rates are about 70%, a figure completely unacceptable by any standards, I'm accused of being arrogant. Anyway, enough ranting! I'm just glad I'm me and that I know what I know. I could say SO much more about this, but I think I'll stop there. For a link that explains something of what I'm thinking look here: Home Birth vs. Hospital Birth isn't about location.
Hopefully those friends and family who bore the brunt of any of that forgive me...
One thing that I've been experiencing the last week or so, as you may have noticed from the previous two paragraphs, is some unusual moodiness. I haven't really struggled with that in this pregnancy, which I'm blaming on my Omega 3s, but this last week has been quite a challenge. Add to that tiredness and achiness in mind and body from getting back into a hectic teaching and lecturing schedule and you have a recipe for rudeness. Hopefully those friends and family who bore the brunt of any of that forgive me...
...I have really been feeling so much more confident about the path we have chosen.
I did mention that we were going to a Natural Birth Workshop this week. What a lovely day spent with lovely people! We learnt about how the various levels of the brain interact for the baby whilst in the womb, and how they work in mom and baby, along with all the hormones, when it comes to the whole process of birth, and how to protect the process for the best outcomes. We looked at ways of relaxing and preparing for birth, we watched some great birth videos and just got to learn and share so much. I had started to have some moments of anxiety about the birth but since Saturday I have really been feeling so much more confident about the path we have chosen. It was a real privilege to have so much time with Marianne!
I never thought I'd be as passionate about moms and birth and babies as I am...
My folks looked after the toddler for the day, and as we were driving to fetch her, I was thinking about how I had mentioned that I wanted to be a midwife and I felt that still small voice inside almost remind me that I am one already, I just need to be equipped. Needless to say I was blubbing, so it's a good thing I wasn't driving! I never thought I'd be as passionate about moms and birth and babies as I am - I was truly caught by surprise!
And so here is my birth quote for this week:
There is power that comes to women when they give birth. They don't ask for it, it simply invades them. Accumulates like clouds on the horizon and passes through, carrying the child with it.
Look out for Week 33 of my pregnancy diary here.